CHOOSING THE RIGHT TRAVEL PARTNER/BUDDY/COMPANY by ATREZ
Traveling with a friend or a group of friends for me and my circle means Adventures, Shisha , and inside jokes that will have you in fits of laughter well after your return, and a memory that last a lifetime. Overseas Travel can certainly make friendship stronger or at times,Not. Many times though, people go into a trip without communicating their expectations, which can lead to arguments, disappointments, and may even take a toll on your friendship.
You don’t need to agree on everything — or anything — for that matter. Traveling with someone very different than yourself can actually be a great experience for both of you. But going into it with a clear idea of what your expectations are will ensure that you both get the most out of your travels and remain friends after your return flight lands at home.
Whether you’re traveling with your BFF, whom you’ve known since the time you could walk, or a coworker you’ve never seen outside of the office, there are some things you’ll want to discuss before heading through the airport security line.
Many will have their own respective opinion but here’s mine ;
1)What kind of trip are you planning ?
Whether is it a backpacking trip or shopping,sightseeing,party,adventurous,relaxation,city-hopping and etc, IT DOES MATTER.
Make sure that everyone has the same expectation in mind.
This selection matters in managing budget of the trip, transportation,accommodation and meals.
Do you enjoy roughing it, or do you prefer the comforts of home while you’re on the road (even if it costs more)?
Dig deeper: How long can you go without a shower? Is an overnight bus a deal-breaker? What are your thoughts on hostels? What about dorm rooms? What comfort are you not okay going without?
All of these questions will help you determine what type of accommodation, transportation, and activities will make everyone happy.
2)What’s your budget?
Money Matters. You’ve gotta be blunt,open and direct about it — there’s no way around. If you’re traveling with a companion, you’ll want to have a ballpark figure of what they’re hoping to spend. You don’t want to go in expecting upscale restaurants and accommodations only to find your friend has a dorm room budget. Get the awkwardness out of the way, and talk numbers before planning anything else. Hashing it out ahead of time will prevent some potentially uncomfortable situations on the road.
3)Are you a planner or a free spirit?
For planners, there is nothing more infuriating than someone who just wants to go with the flow. And for spontaneous types, itineraries are the ultimate kill-joy. Find out where both of you stand on this issue. And be specific.I practice the S.M.A.R.T Goal .
Specific – Go into details to every aspects of the trip.From the time you check in at the airport to the time you guys touchdown at your country of origin. Decide what you want. Your first ste must be to decide what it is you and your friend/friends hope to achieve.
Measureable – Ensure that what is planned is do-able within the duration of the trip.
Achievable – Draw/Draft out a plan after you have decided on planning the trip or simply go with the flow. Take note to the duration of travel, and make sure it tallies to the itinerary that has been set upon.You do not want to be in your very own AMAZING RACE dragging all your luggages all because of too wishful planning.
Realistic – Always be true to yourself and be real at all times. Consider all other factors that comes along in the decision-making factor.
Time – Time is Money , Time is Key. Always make way spare time for different conditions.Most Importantly , you do not want to miss your flight/train/ferry.
For some people, an itinerary means just having a list of towns you plan to visit, and an idea of how long you’ll stay in each. For others, itineraries mean an hour-by-hour plan of what you’ll be doing, where you’ll be eating, and when you’ll take bathroom breaks.
There truly is no right or wrong way to plan (or not plan) a trip, and both types of travel can be equally rewarding. If you truly can’t come to an agreement, divide your trip in half. Make a plan for the first half, and allow yourselves some freedom for the remainder. You’ll both learn something — even if it is how much you hate traveling with (or without) a plan.
4.Keep rolling,rolling,rolling or Simply just Chillin ?
Speed of travel is one of the most important things to talk about since it will determine just about every aspect of your trip.
Some people prefer to pack in as much as they can, and they don’t mind hopping around from hotel to hotel. Others (myself included), prefer to spend at least a few nights in each place and really get to know the locale, even if that means they’ll see less places in the end. Discuss both of your preferences, and find a happy medium.
5.Set a HIGHTLIGHT Activity .
Every trip has to have at least 1 main activity to look forward to.
A Trek up Mt Fansipan in Sapa,Vietnam? Whitewater rafting down Sungei Kampar in Perak,Malaysia? A really nice seafood meal high up in the air ? Bungee Jumping ? Camel-riding into the desert of sahara ? Discuss a couple things you’d be willing to spend more money on. This way you have an idea of your priorities. Plus, you can help each other stay on budget so you’ll have enough money for that special souvenir or outing.
And perhaps you don’t have any room to splurge at all. Be honest so your partner has an idea of what to expect and can help you stay accountable to your spending plan.
6.Find out a significant entertainment all of you are into ?
PARTY? SHISHA? SNOOPED? Discover 1 thing all of you can indulge in and have fun together.This will add more meaning to the trip and adding into the “unforgettable experience” segment of the trip.
7. Set an alarm, or wake up whenever?
Do you want to get a start on the day before the masses of tourists are out and about, or do you prefer to take your mornings slowly while on vacation? Perhaps one of you wakes with the sun and the other hits snooze 27 times before actually getting out of bed. So what do you do? I’ve traveled with people who have very different sleep schedules than myself, and it works fine as long as we are respectful to the other’s habits. If you’re okay with your friend turning in for the night early, they’ll respect your “no talking before 9 a.m. policy”. You may also need to compromise and start some days a little earlier than you may prefer, and vice versa.
8. Street Food: Delicious or Adventurous?
Are you a picky eater, or would you consider yourself adventuresome in the culinary arena? Food is a huge part of traveling, and you won’t want to wait until you’ve made it to your destination to find out that your travel companion doesn’t eat much other than chicken fingers and mac ‘n cheese.
Furthermore, street food is a huge part of culture in many countries. And it’s a great way to get a taste of the local flavors for a fraction of the price you’d pay at a sit down restaurant. We all have friends who wouldn’t dare eat something cooked from a stand on the street. Maybe that’s you. Lay it all out on the table (see what I did there?) and share any food phobias you may have, or things you simply refuse to eat.
More questions to consider: Do you have a daily budget for food? Do you have any dietary restrictions? Is there anything you definitely want to try while traveling? Is there anything you absolutely won’t eat? And back to the original question: How do you feel about street food?
Me? IM ALL ABOUT THE FOOD !!!!
9. What are you looking forward to most?
Every country/city has its own significance and every individual have their individual desires.
Say you’re planning to visit Italy, and you’re absolutely dying to browse the Uffizi. Your friend is not exactly the artsy type, and never thought to put Florence on the itinerary. To say you’ll be disappointed is an understatement. Lay out the things you absolutely must do ahead of time so that neither of you is let down.
If you are looking forward to different things, that’s fine! Maybe your friend would rather go shopping than step foot in a museum. Split up for the day. There’s no rule that says you need to spend every waking minute together. But deciding this ahead of time will make it less awkward in the moment.
10.EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED
Traveling isn’t all relaxing in hammocks and sky-gazing on the beach. I hate to shatter this illusion, but things won’t always go according to your plan.
You may have the best of plans,and as detail a plan as it is deem right.But fact is, there ought to be situations where what you plan may not work out. The key to solve this is simple the ability to ADAPT TO CHANGES.
The airline might misplace your luggage or your hotel might lose the reservation. It’s helpful to know how your partner will handle stress if an unexpected situation arises. In other words, you compliment each others weakness to make the trip an even memorable trip.
One story i can share was for my trip to Morocco.
All of my luggage,my mum’s,my good friends checked in luggage got misplaced.And we had our overnight trip to Sahara expedition the day after arrival in marrakech.We had to make do without our luggage for a good 5 days and we had prepared some stuff in our luggage just for the trip to SAHARA, which was also one of the main highlights in our itinerary.Imagine how we make do without it and the trip became an even memorable one.